WHEN OUR DAUGHTER was about two years old and able to walk unassisted, she often wore overalls (jump suits), rather than girlish frocks. One day we were walking in London’s Kensington Gardens when we passed a couple of elderly ladies. One of them looked at our child, and said to us: “What a cute little boy you have”
We replied:
“Actuually, she is our daughter.”
To which one of the ladies said to her friend: “it’s so difficult to tell one from the other these days.”

Some months later, we were in India at the Bangalore Club (in Bangalore). In those days, the late 1990s, the club had a Men’s Bar, to which only men were admitted. Its wood panelled walls bear hunting trophies and archaic weapons.
One day, I was having a drink in that bar with my father-in-law, when our daughter arrived in the adjoining room with my wife. Excited to see us, our daughter, dressed in her overalls, dashed into the Men’s Bar. An elderly gentleman, seeing a child in the bar, said to our daughter:
“You are too young to come in, young man. When you are 21, you will be welcome here.”
To which, my wife standing close to the entrance, said: “She’s our daughter.”
The gentleman then responded: “In that case, you will never be able to enter our bar”.
How wrong he was.
Sometime during the early twenty-first century, the rules changed: now both men and women can use what had been the Men’s Bar. Now, this bar has been renamed: it is simply The Bar.
Today, almost 28 years later, nobody would have any difficulty identifying our daughter as a young lady.


